Some days are hard. Some hard days are more than a day, sometimes they’re a week or even a month.
We’re all in the same boat – maybe at different times, but that boat has seats for all of us. For some reason though, we don’t want to impose our momentary weakness on anyone else. We hold that shit on the inside while pretending we are fabulous on the outside.
The reason I’m bringing this up is that I’ve seen different friends struggling at different times in the past few months. They’re sad or overwhelmed or afraid but determined to vent just a little bit and then they’ll be fine. No Pity Party necessary. I feel for them because I’ve been there, but what the hell are they talking about?!
What’s wrong with a Pity Party? They are AWESOME! And it’s not healthy to keep all that crap bottled up, sticking it in a box in the back of your mind where it gives you nightmares and starts to eat away at other brain things.
Have a damned Pity Party already!
Build a blanket fort. Seriously. And fill it with pillows, booze, junk food, headphones, Kleenex, music and your own sorry behind. Make a cheezy sign with crayons and pin it to the blanket with a safety pin: “I’m unavailable to take any calls at the moment. Please leave a message and I’ll get back to you as soon as I’m done with my Pity Party.”
Go ahead……bawl like a child until you’re drowning in snot.
Shout at the heavens and curse the Gawds.
Blame all your problems on that ex-friend who screwed you over.
Eat chocolate until your face is smeared and your eyes turn brown.
Be a flamboyant Drama Queen/King.
Throw chip bags and chocolate bar wrappers and snotty Kleenex out every opening in the blanket fort until the perimeter is heaped high with it all.
Kick your feet and pound your fists.
Swear with abandon.
Listen to trash metal with your headphones on and sing at the top of your lungs.
Own the hell out of your Pity Party because you deserve it!
Tomorrow, crawl out of your tent, have a shower and return to adulting without any explanation.
Because what happens in the Blanket Fort, stays in the Blanket Fort.